Some days ago, someone made a tweet asking women to ask their boyfriends for their account numbers to see his reaction.
This conversation led to a bigger question of whether or not women spend money on their boyfriends.
In this article, seven Nigerian women talk about spending money on their boyfriends.
Bukola, 25
The thing about me is that if I like someone, I will buy them gifts. It doesn’t have to be my partner. If I see something my best friend or sister might like, I would buy it for them. That’s how I buy my partner stuff too. I used to send him money in the beginning of our relationship but he’s more stable now. I prefer to spend money getting him gifts.
Two days ago, he sent me 50k because I told him I was broke, even though I told him not to worry because I would soon get paid. After he sent it, I ended up using the money to buy him a new pair of slippers and skincare products.
Esther, 20
Since I started dating, I have always spent money on my boyfriends to show them I care. I once had a rich boyfriend who made spending money on him hard. He had basically everything so picking out gifts for him was a chore. He was always so surprised that a woman was buying him gifts.
The guy I am dating now used to stop me from buying him gifts before but he is getting used to it now. He cries when I send him money out of the blues. I love how happy men feel when you send them money or buy them gifts. That’s why I do it.
Cyn, 25
It’s easy to spend on him because he’s always willing to spend on me. I like to send him lunch, buy him data or fuel his car. I also buy him clothes. Sometimes I cover the price of our spa dates or dinner dates.
He’s not used to getting gifts so he always says, “Babe, you don’t have to.” Even when it’s the smallest thing, I ignore him and do what I like.
Bola, 23
Spending money on my boyfriend comes naturally to me. Although he wouldn’t let me have his account number, I buy him gifts to make up for it. I send him food from Instagram vendors often and order shoes and clothes I think he might like. His joy when he sees it makes me happy.
Zara, 21
Giving and receiving gifts is one of my love languages so I tend to buy my boyfriend gifts often. He tells me to buy what I want and send him the bill so I repay the favor by buying him gifts often. It’s one of my favorite things to do.
F, 22
My boyfriend always spends money on me so it’s only right that I match his energy with small things like booking us a staycation at Bogobiri for 135k or buying him a care box of £200 when I travelled or paying for dinner. He’s always so happy even when it’s not expensive stuff. He tells people I’m his sugar mummy and it makes me laugh so much because he does so much more than I do.
Kachi, 26
I have had only one boyfriend and while we dated I liked to buy him food — Food is my love language. Whenever I go out, I would buy him food or when I am home, I would order him something I am also eating.
The most I ever spent on him was for his birthday. I filled a box with practical things he could use like clippers, shoes, etc. I also got him cakes. He’s not a foodie like me but he really liked his birthday gift. I felt good when he said that our relationship had grown past his expectations.
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