Why is it so stressful?

It’s an endless loop: overpromise, fail, block.

We’re here for the girlies, all the rooms they walked into, the ceilings they break and everything they achieved in 2023. From sports to politics, film and music, here’s the year in women's achievements.

Growing up religious, this 29-year-old Nigerian woman assumed she was straight, but several toxic relationships (and situation-ships) later, she’s exploring dating her gender. From the inconsistent cultist to the insecure dog beater, she shares the hetero-experiences that led her to this shift on this week’s What She Said.

Seven years after getting pregnant in her teens by a boyfriend who was six years older and a traumatic abortion, Alanna* still feels haunted by her past.

This week’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject talks about writing for therapy, being a Christian in a staunch Muslim home and raising 17 cats.

This week’s #ZikokoWhatSheSaid subject is a 45-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about spending the last 22 years in the UK moving from one menial job to another, not wanting her daughter to see her retire as a shop worker and finally going back to university.

“For someone nick-named baby elephant as an overweight kid, I was quite a picky eater. But no one talks about how falling in love can change what we’re willing to eat.” Here, Ortega shares how loving Akinola* made her try shawarma, and maybe one day, amala.

In this letter #ToHER @Glasses_Ayo writes to her cousin, Oyinlola. They met when Odunayo was four and have been inseparable ever since. After reading last week’s letter, she wanted Oyinlola to know things haven’t been the same without her.

Today’s subject on #Zikokowhatshesaid is @fehinlean, a 30-year-old Nigerian woman. She talks about her childhood love for motorcycles, why she waited until she was 28 to ride one and handling the stares when people realise she isn’t a man, on her biking trips across the country.