It’s January, and your IJGB (I Just Got Back) bae is back in the abroad. What was supposed to be a “no strings attached” December fling has turned into you catching feelings they’re probably not aware of.
Usually, this is where most December flings fizzle out, but not on your watch. If you’re determined to keep their interest alive, here’s how to make them miss you so much they’ll be booking the next flight back.
Remind them why they fell for you
Don’t let them forget the elite experience you put them through during Detty December. Send them cute throwback photos of your time together, or randomly text, “Remember how you kept purging after drinking roadside kunu?” A little nostalgia is your secret weapon.
And play the “Hard to Get” card
Listen, nothing keeps someone hooked like a little mystery. Don’t be too available. Let them wonder what you’re up to in Lagos. Post cryptic WhatsApp statuses like “Outside later?” or “Who’s picking me up today?” They’ll be dying to know who’s in the picture.
Speak their love language (virtually)
Find out what their love language is and cater to it. Is it words of affirmation? Send them texts like, “You’re killing it over there; I’m so proud of you.” Acts of service? Help them find a plug for the Nigerian food they’re craving. Show them that distance isn’t a barrier for you.
Drop hints about your growing options
IJGB flings are built on competition. Now that they’re back abroad, remind them you’re still in demand. Casually mention someone who bought you lunch or took you out for drinks. Don’t overdo it, though; just enough to keep them on their toes.
Flirt like your life depends on it
Remember how you had them hooked during the Detty December rush? Bring that energy back. Send them random texts like, “I miss how you laugh at my jokes,” or “When are you coming back to finish what we started?” or send them thirst traps. IJGBs love a good ego boost.
Start planning their next trip back to Nigeria
Listen, you have to be proactive here. If you leave it to them, they’ll probably not return to Nigeria until the next Detty December rush, and that’s enough time for them to move on to the next thing. Suggest places you both didn’t visit during December, or hint at fun activities you’ll do together next time. Make the idea of seeing you again too exciting to resist.
Save the drama
Nothing kills interest faster than unnecessary stress. Resist the urge to ask, “Where is this going?” or send a “So you’ve forgotten me now?” text. Let things flow naturally, and let them realise they can’t live without you.
Have a life outside them
Here’s the twist: while trying to keep them hooked, ensure you’re living your best life, too. Post pictures of yourself enjoying Lagos life, hanging out with friends, or even starting new hobbies. Let them see they’re just an option and not your final destination.
