Sex is amazing and all but sometimes, people do things that turn us off either during or after sex. I asked ten Nigerian women what their biggest sexual pet peeves are. Here’s what they had to say:
Ebitare, 21
I hate it when I am kissing a guy and he pulls away to push my head to his crotch. If I want to give you a blowjob, I will. Also, if I tell you I don’t cum, listen to me. I hate being told what to do in a commanding tone. I am not a machine — I cannot go faster!
Omo, 23
I hate being touched when I don’t ask for it or show that I want it. Kunle, what if I don’t want your finger inside me?
Bimbo, 21
Believe it or not, my biggest sexual pet peeve is multiple orgasms. Women like to cum many times during sex but I hate when I’ve cum twice, at most and she’s trying to chase another orgasm. Sister, please get off my body. We are done here.
Halima, 23
It annoys me when I’m having sex with someone and they tell me to call their name or when someone says, “Cum for me” when I’m not close to it. Whatever sexual urges I had before the encounter dies immediately that happens.
Nneka, 25
It irritates me when I’m having sex with someone and they are sweating on me.
Linda, 23
If you use saliva as a lubricant while we are having sex, that’s the last time we are doing it.
Luciana, 21
I hate it when people try to stick their tongue in my mouth the moment they lean in for a kiss. It’s a huge turn off for me. Also, if I don’t reciprocate your dirty talk, biko stop.
Suzanna, 20
I won’t have sex with someone I’m not dating so I get irritated when I’m being reminded of our fights or when he makes a weird comment about my body or the position we’re doing. I hate when we agree on the things I would do but when things start, he’s trying to change plans or force me to do something. Huge turn off!
Udochi, 24
I hate it when people switch up after sex. Like we were just in each other and now you are sleeping with your back turned to me or pressing your phone instead of talking to me. No matter how much I like you, if I call your attention to it and you don’t change, that’s the end of me.
Yinka, 19
One time, I was with a guy and I was enjoying the sex we were having until he said I should scream. I was so confused but baba kept insisting. I had to stop and tell him I didn’t want to do that no matter how intense the sex gets. I don’t know if it’s just me but watching me clean up or use the bathroom after sex is a no.
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