Sex can be a great stress reliever, especially in these Bubu times. In this article, six Nigerian women talk about the best sex they’ve ever had.
Solana, 23
In October 2019, I had the most mind-blowing sex. It was my first time trying BDSM. I didn’t know that I would enjoy it the way I did. We tried spanking, biting, degradation and praise. I loved how attentive my partner was to my body.
It was also my first time using a sex toy. We used four different sizes of dildos. It was insane.
Susan, 30
Last year, I met J, a handsome tech bro. You know what they say about 30+ men being energetic. I got to experience it with him last November.
It was supposed to be a one time thing, but now, I’m stuck. I’m a very sexual person and I had sex with a lot of guys in my 20’s but no one made me feel the way J does. Sometimes, I almost can’t handle the waves of ecstasy that take over me when he makes me cum. I cry, laugh, sing or just get totally lost in it.
His fingers are magical. I squirted for the first time in my life with him. He touches me so well and gives the best head ever. He always lets me cum first.
I am a shy person and pretty insecure about my body. With him, all that goes to hide. I shed a tear as I wrote this. I know I should be positive about the future but I fear that I may never find anyone that understands my body the way he does. I pray I don’t end up like Billie in Sex\Life
Kayce, 21
I was curious about BDSM but I had never tried anything until I met this guy. In the middle of our make-out session, he told me he wanted to try something with me and asked if I trusted him. When I said I did, he blindfolded and tied my hands behind my back then we continued to make out.
It felt weird at first until he started to finger me. I was already going crazy with pleasure, then he started fucking me. I came for the first time that day. I also realised that when it comes to sex, I’m very submissive.
Grace, 25
He poured cold yoghurt on my vagina and licked it. That night he ate me out until I died and resurrected. The sex was on another level because I was quite high. Thinking about it right now makes my insides tingle.
Kay, 23
I met him on a WhatsApp group and we vibed. I was at my regular side dude’s house but he wasn’t home so I decided to visit this new guy — his house wasn’t far. His mom has a baking shop in their compound so we spent time there. We bought ice cream. I teased him by dripping it on my chest and making him lick it off. Later, I lay on the table while he did things with his fingers that left me shaking. Anyone could have come into the shop and that added to the thrill.
Bean, 26
My partner and I are in an open relationship. I am bisexual and he is interested in exploring his sexuality. We’re constantly meeting new people and assessing who could be a third partner for us. He sends me Tinder profiles of women he thinks I might be interested in and I love it because he’s often right.
One day, he shared the profile of a pansexual woman with me. After reading her bio, I wanted to get to know her. He spoke with her for a couple of weeks then he gave her my number. We chatted and I loved how open she was about what she enjoyed sexually.
On Friday, she came over to spend the night with my partner and me. In the evening, we got dressed and somehow ended up in a club. There weren’t a lot of people at the club but the lights and smoke set a sultry mood. My partner was outside while she and I danced inside. Next thing, her hands are feeling up my body in all the right places. She was subtle but also didn’t give a fuck that we were in public in Lagos. It felt good and after giving her a lap dance, we went home.
At home, we were naked in a split second. My partner watched us make out and helped me get the bag of toys. We had sex with a toy no woman has ever used on me before. Tribbing with her was the best and I made sure I told her. Even after we both came, I wanted more. I think my partner understood that she was for me that night and stuck with watching us. I am a switch but I tend to be a Dom with women but that changed that night. We haven’t had sex with her since then but I know it’s going to happen again.
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