A famous nobody once said, “If you haven’t been in a threesome, then you haven’t lived.” In this article, seven Nigerian women talk about being in threesomes.
Ria, 24
I have been in two threesomes so far. The male-female-male one was a bit of a letdown because one of the guys wasn’t attracted to me. However, I liked the one I had with a girl and a guy. The guy was a friend with benefits. He knew the girl was bi-curious and wanted to be with a girl.
On the day it happened, I went over to his house, and she joined us some hours later. It was a bit awkward at first, then we played music and started dancing. She and I danced with each other, and then we started kissing. She had never had sex before, so we did everything else — oral sex, fingering, fondling. We took turns to please her. Sometimes I’d sit and watch both of them go at it or he’d sit and watch us eat each other out. It was fun. The whole thing lasted a couple of hours.
IT, 20
I have been in a male-female-male threesome and an all-female threesome. I like sleeping with women more, so I was more involved when it was just us girls. I had slept with the two girls on different occasions before so I think the threesome was bound to happen.
That day, they both came to see me. Somehow, we started making out and we all had sex. I felt like I was the centre of attention. Someone was always touching me somewhere, and I loved it. I like the idea of sex with more than one person, so I’m trying to make threesomes more regular.
Dee, 26
The first one I had was with my girlfriend because she wanted to have the experience. One day, my girlfriend, my friend and I were hanging out and my girlfriend brought up the idea of a threesome. The guy was someone I used to have sex with.
We went to a hotel nearby and got high. I made out with my girlfriend for a bit, and then she asked me to make out with him. She didn’t let me touch her throughout. They both said they wanted to focus on me. Then she ate me out while he was playing with my tits. Afterwards, they both took turns having sex with me. I had multiple orgasms. It’s still the craziest experience I have ever had.
The second threesome I was in was all women and we were all friends. We were hanging out that day when one of them started watching porn. She invited us to join her, and we did. As we watched, she said she had gotten horny and started touching herself. While she was touching her clit, she reached for my breasts and that’s how everything started. We all fucked each other, and it was nice.
Jumoke, 27
There was this guy I was seeing who suggested we have a threesome. He introduced me to the girl he thought we could do it with. Before the threesome, the girl and I used to meet up to have sex so we could get familiar with each other’s bodies. I was scared of STIs, so I made both of them take a test before we had sex. The day we had the threesome, the babe started everything. She kissed me and then him. Everything happened so fast, but I really liked it. My brain usually acts as a commentator when I’m having sex sometimes so it was nice to be distracted because there wasn’t one thing to focus on.
Jo, 26
During my service year, I was in a male-female-male threesome and the guys were twin brothers. I met Kenny* first and he didn’t tell me he had a twin brother. Some days later, I met his brother, Tai*. I thought it was Kenny but Tai explained to me that they were twins. Tai and I got close. After camp, we had sex and it was good so we continued to hang out.
One day we were hanging out at his house and smoking loud. Kenny was also with us. Tai and I started making out while Kenny watched. After a few minutes, Kenny went to get condoms and dropped them on the side table. He continued watching us make out, so I asked Tai if either of them had been in a threesome before, and he said yes. That’s how it started. Omo, they both fucked me and it was amazing. We had sex all night. They took turns to feed me. The next morning, Tai bathed me and it was the sweetest thing. I ended up spending the entire weekend there.
P, 28
I had a crush on this guy in 2019, but we didn’t start talking until later this year. Our mutual friend had a party, and we met there. He didn’t want to be in a relationship but I didn’t care — I just wanted to have sex with him. When we talked about our kinks, he told me he likes being with multiple women at the same time, particularly when they are making out on his bed and he comes to join them. I had never been in a threesome but I was open to trying.
One day, he asked me to come over. While I was there, another girl I had met before at a game night came over. She had her bath and joined us on the bed. Within a few minutes, she started sucking his dick while I kissed him.
After he fucked me, she sucked his dick. When I came, we switched. The sex was so fucking intimate — it felt like a union of bodies making love. There were so many things to do. We took breaks to eat, drink or gist but we continued all night. I felt great. Now I feel like I only want to have threesomes.
Tiff, 26
In December 2020, I randomly tweeted about my boredom and my friend sent a DM, asking if I wanted to go out. I said yes and she said, “Prepare to be fucked”. I was like “Wow okay.” I went to meet her in the evening and found out that she had a guy with him. We did molly and went clubbing. After the night out, we went to the guy’s house. While we were there, he brought out a bondage kit. Both of them cuffed my wrists and gagged me. The sex was amazing. I don’t remember much because I passed out but I definitely want to do it again.
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