A Friends with Benefits (FwB) relationship is one ship you should try entering before you die. If it’s done right and with the right person, it can be a fulfilling experience. Here’s a list of tips to help you navigate them better.
1. Pick someone that respects you and your time
Yes, we all like disrespectful knacks, but let it be from someone who respects you. It doesn’t have to be a cold relationship but it also doesn’t have to be hot with drama. It’s knacks and friendship, not Fuji House of Commotion.
2. Before you start the knacks, know what you want
Is it just knacks or knacks with a side of lovey-dovey? Please know it and make it clear to everyone involved. That way, you can prevent stories that touch.
3. Communicate
Speak your mind, tell them your needs. If you like calls or you do not like calls, the best time to say it is in the beginning. Anything else might lead to chaos.
4. Always practice safe sex
Splurge on condoms and dental dams for oral sex, if possible. Also, make sure you and your partners test regularly for STIs.
5. Establish boundaries
Boundaries are very important for making sure things go in the intended direction. Also, it allows for mutual respect and allows you to avoid see-finish. Setting boundaries will help you avoid saying “Had I known.”
6. Stay wicked
In everything, don’t forget to stay wicked and let nobody take you for an idiot. Na knack you wan knack, e no mean say dem go use you play.
7. Don’t let anybody know your moves
Yes, you two are not in a relationship. They must not know every single thing about you but be sure to let them know how things affect them. Don’t be a Yoruba man.
8. At the first sign of disrespect, run
You are there for a fun time not a long time. Once you see red flag, carry your load and move. No need for endurance. No be you kill Jesus.
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