Talking stages are complicated, but there’s no reason for them to be in 2025.
Instead of putting yourself through the constant torture of “Do they like me, or am I just here for vibes?”, here are 10 questions to help you decide if it’s time to move TF on.
1. Do they match your energy?
Are you the only one calling, texting, and trying to plan dates, or are they just showing up when it’s convenient? You deserve effort too, abeg.
2. Have they talked about what they’re looking for?
Listen, this is 2025, and vibes alone don’t cut it. If it’s been weeks and they’ve said nothing about their intentions, end that talking stage. They’re most likely there to take up space in your life.
3. How do they treat service workers?
This is important. If they’re rude to waiters or security guards, that’s your red flag waving in 4K. Run because it really fit be you.
4. Have you met any of their friends or family?
If you’re still a secret after months of talking, are you sure you’re not just their imaginary friend?
5. How often do they “joke” about polygamy or open relationships?
A subtle reminder: If they keep joking about “having options,” you might already be one of those options.
6. Can you picture a future with them, or are you just vibing?
If you can’t even imagine introducing them to your friends without cringing, don’t waste your time.
7. Are they financially responsible?
It’s not about having millions. If they can’t budget for small things, imagine trying to plan a future with them. Run away, please.
8. How do they handle conflict?
Do they ghost you when there’s a disagreement, or are they willing to talk things out like an adult? If it’s the former, you already know what to do.
9. Are they consistent, or are you dealing with hot-and-cold vibes?
If they’re all over you one day and disappear the next, they’re either confused or playing games. Either way, it’s not worth your time.
10. Do you even like them that much?
Finally, step back and ask yourself: Do you genuinely enjoy their company, or are you just trying to avoid being single?
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