200 Questions To Ask Your Boyfriend To Make You Closer

Finding the right questions to ask your boyfriend can make all the difference in keeping your connection strong and exciting. Relationships often burn hot in the beginning — you spend hours talking, learning what makes each other tick, and building a bond. To keep that spark alive, it’s important to stay curious and keep the conversation flowing. 

That’s why we’ve compiled a list of 200 fun, meaningful, and even flirty questions to ask your boyfriend. Inspired by insights from real Nigerian couples we talked to, these questions cover everything from his personal philosophies to his finances and deepest desires, helping you deepen your connection at every stage.

35 Questions to ask your new boyfriend

When Aina found love again, the thoughtful questions she asked her boyfriend early in the relationship helped build a strong foundation despite her past divorce and their age gap. These 35 questions will help you connect with your new boyfriend, understand his background, and lay the groundwork for something meaningful.

• What’s your full name, and does it have any special meaning?

• If you could relieve any moment from your life, which would it be?

• What was it like for you growing up?

• Do you have any siblings, and how close are you to them?

• What’s your favourite childhood memory?

• What was secondary school like for you?

• What’s your favourite food?

• Do you speak any languages? Can you teach me a few words?

• What’s your favourite late-night snack?

• How do you usually celebrate holidays or festivals back home?

• What’s your favourite song right now?

• What’s your love language?

• How do you handle conflicts in a relationship?

• What’s your idea of a perfect date?

• Do you believe in marriage, and what does it mean to you?

• How important is family approval in your relationships?

• What’s the most romantic thing someone has ever done for you?

• How do you show affection?

• What’s your biggest deal-breaker in a relationship?

• How do you balance your career and personal life?

• Who’s your favourite Nigerian musician?

• Do you like Nollywood movies? What’s your favourite?

• What’s your favourite way to relax after a long day?

• Do you enjoy cooking? What’s your signature dish?

• What’s your favourite sport or team?

• Do you like to dance? What’s your favourite dance move?

• What’s the most adventurous thing you’ve ever done?

• Do you enjoy travelling? Where’s your dream destination?

• What’s your favourite Nigerian slang or phrase?

• Do you play any musical instruments?

• What do you do for work, and do you enjoy it?

• What’s your dream job or career goal?

• How do you define success?

• What’s the biggest challenge you’ve faced in your career?

35 Spicy, flirty questions to ask your boyfriend

“I never realised how much flirting could strengthen our bond,” says Kemi. “Asking playful questions like his favourite way to be teased makes him smile and sets the mood.” Ready to turn up the heat? These 35 flirty questions will make your next date night unforgettable.

• What’s the first thing you noticed about me when we met?  

• Do you remember what you were thinking the first time we kissed?  

• What’s your favourite thing about my smile?  

• If you could describe my body in three words, what would they be?  

• What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever worn?  

• Do you ever catch yourself staring at me when I’m not looking?  

• What’s your favourite bedroom memory of us so far?  

• What would you want to do if we were alone right now?  

• What’s the most attractive thing about me, in your opinion?  

• Do you like it when I wear your clothes?  

• What’s your favourite way for me to touch you?  

• Do you prefer cuddling or kissing? Why?  

• What’s the sexiest thing you’ve ever thought about doing to me?  

• Do you feel like I understand your desires and needs?   

• What’s your favourite part of my body?  

• Do you ever dream about me? What happens in those dreams?  

• What’s the most daring thing you’d like us to try together?  

• What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever done without realising it?  

• What’s your favourite position when we’re intimate?  

• Do you like it when I take control, or do you prefer to lead?  

• What’s your biggest fantasy involving me?  

• If we could go anywhere in the world for a romantic getaway, where would it be?  

• What’s something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t told me yet?  

• Do you like it when I tease you?  

• What’s the sexiest thing I’ve ever said to you?  

• If we had 24 hours alone with no distractions, what would we do?  

• What’s your favourite way to be seduced?  

• Do you like it when I wear lingerie? What colour should I try next?  

• What’s the most adventurous place you’d like to be intimate with me?  

• What’s something you’ve always wanted me to do to you?  

• Do you like it when I play with your hair?  

• What’s your favourite nickname I’ve ever called you?  

• Do you think about me during the day when we’re apart?  

• What’s the sexiest thing about the way I walk or move?  

• What’s one thing you’d like us to explore together to make our connection even stronger?

35 deep questions to ask your boyfriend

Hassan credits deep conversations with Derin for bringing him closer to the love of his life. These thought-provoking questions are designed to spark meaningful dialogue, uncover hidden layers, and strengthen your bond. Whether you’re exploring his dreams, fears, or values, these deep questions will help you connect on a level that goes far beyond the surface.

• What’s the most important lesson life has taught you so far?  

• What’s your biggest fear, and how do you cope with it?  

• What’s one thing you’ve never told anyone about yourself?  

• How do you define true happiness?  

• What’s your biggest regret, and what did you learn from it?  

• What’s the most challenging thing you’ve ever overcome?  

• How do you handle failure or disappointment?  

• What’s your idea of a perfect life?  

• What’s something you’re still trying to forgive yourself for?  

• How do you think your childhood has shaped who you are today?  

• What’s the most meaningful compliment you’ve ever received?  

• What’s one thing you’re most proud of about yourself?  

• How do you want to be remembered by the people who love you?  

• What’s your biggest dream that you haven’t pursued yet?  

• What’s the most selfless thing you’ve ever done?  

• How do you deal with feelings of insecurity or self-doubt?  

• What’s your definition of love, and how has it changed over time?  

• What’s one thing you wish you could change about the world?  

• How do you handle stress or overwhelming emotions?  

• What’s the most important quality you look for in partners?

• What’s a moment in your life that changed you forever?  

• How do you think our relationship has impacted you so far?  

• What’s something you’ve always wanted to ask me but haven’t?  

• What’s your biggest insecurity, and how can I support you with it?  

• What’s one thing you’re still trying to figure out about yourself?  

• How do you feel about vulnerability in relationships?  

• What’s the most meaningful relationship in your life, and why?  

• What’s one thing you’ve learned from past relationships?  

• How do you think we can grow stronger as a couple?  

• What’s your biggest hope for our future together?  

• What’s one thing you’re afraid to lose in life?  

• How do you think your friends would describe you?  

• What’s a dream or goal you’ve given up on, and why?  

• How do you feel about the concept of soulmates or destiny?  

• How do you deal with temptation?

35 Questions to ask your boyfriend about finances

According to Jola and David, talking about their finances early in their relationship helped them avoid misunderstandings and even helped improve David’s relationship with money. These 35 financial questions can help you get on the same page about money matters.

• How do you feel about discussing finances in a relationship?  

• What’s your current financial situation like?  

• Do you have any savings, and how much do you aim to save regularly?  

• What’s your approach to budgeting? Do you follow a plan?  

• Do you have any debt, and how are you managing it?  

• How did it feel to get paid for the first time?  

• How do you handle unexpected expenses or emergencies?  

• What’s your philosophy on spending versus saving?  

• Do you invest? If so, what kind of investments do you have?  

• How do you feel about sharing financial responsibilities in a relationship?  

• What’s your biggest financial goal right now?  

• Do you have a retirement plan, and how are you preparing for it?  

• How do you feel about joint bank accounts in a relationship?  

• What’s your attitude toward taking financial risks?  

• Do you have a financial role model or someone you look up to for money advice?  

• How do you prioritise your spending?  

• What’s the most expensive thing you’ve ever bought, and was it worth it?  

• Do you believe in giving to charity or helping others financially?  

• How do you feel about lending money to friends or family?  

• What’s your opinion on buying a home in a less urban place and renting in the city?  

• Do you have a financial plan for the next 5 years?  

• How do you feel about prenuptial agreements?  

• What’s your biggest financial fear?  

• How do you handle financial disagreements in a relationship?  

• Do you track your expenses regularly?  

• What’s your opinion on using loan apps?  

• How do you feel about taking out loans for big purchases?  

• What’s your attitude toward luxury spending or splurging?  

• Do you have any financial habits you’re trying to change?  

• How do you feel about financial transparency in a relationship?  

• What’s your opinion on supporting family members financially?  

• How would you plan to split finances if we decide to have children?  

• What’s your opinion on combining incomes in a marriage?  

• How do you feel about financial independence in a relationship?  

• What’s your attitude toward saving for big life events, like weddings or buying a house?

30 Questions to test his love

Jane says that getting to know the real reason why Nonso chose her helped reassure her of his love. These 30 questions will help you gauge his level of commitment and how well he understands and values you. They range from lighthearted to profound so that you can mix and match depending on the mood and situation:

• What’s your favourite thing about our relationship?

• How do you know you’re in love with me?

• What’s one thing you’d never change about me?

• How do you feel when we’re apart for a long time?

• What’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think of me?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel like a priority?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel special, even on a bad day?

• How do you want to handle disagreements between us?

• What’s your favourite memory of us together?

• How do you see us growing together in the future?

• What’s one thing you’ve learned from being in a relationship with me?

• How would you handle it when I’m upset or having a tough time?

• What’s one way you’d like to improve our relationship?

• How do you define loyalty in a relationship?

• What’s one thing you’d do to support my dreams and goals?

• How do you feel about making sacrifices for our relationship?

• What’s one thing you’d never compromise on when it comes to us?

• How do you know I’m the one for you?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel loved every day?

• How do you feel about our future together?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel secure in our relationship?

• How do you handle it when I need space or time alone?

• What’s one thing you’d do to cheer me up when I’m feeling down?

• How do you feel about being vulnerable with me?

• What’s one thing you’d do to show me you’re thinking of me?

• How do you feel about making long-term plans together?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel appreciated?

• How do you handle it when we have different opinions or beliefs?

• What’s one thing you’d do to make me feel understood?

• How do you feel about putting in effort to keep our relationship strong?

30 Questions to make him laugh

Dare and Vanessa are proof that if you want to make him fall in love with you, make him laugh. These 30 questions will make sure that he laughs his way into your arms.

• If you had to choose between me and your favourite sports jersey, which one would you pick?

• What food would you eat to win if you entered a food-eating contest?

• What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever done to impress someone?

• If you were a superhero, what would your power and lame weakness be?

• What’s the funniest joke you know by heart?

• If you could swap lives with any animal for a day, which one would you choose?

• What’s the silliest thing you believed as a kid?

• If you had to describe yourself as a kitchen appliance, what would you be?

• What’s the most ridiculous dare you’ve ever taken?

• What’s the funniest nickname you’ve been given?

• If you could create a new holiday, what would it be called and how would we celebrate?

• What’s the most embarrassing song you secretly love?

• If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?

• What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever done to avoid doing work?

• What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve ever bought?

• What’s the most ridiculous excuse you’ve ever used to get out of something?

• What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever seen someone else do?

• If you could invent a new dance move, what would it be called?

• What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?

•  What’s the funniest reason you got into trouble as a kid?

• If you could only watch one movie for the rest of your life, what would it be?

• What’s the funniest thing you’ve ever done to avoid awkward small talk?

• If you could have any fictional character as your roommate, who would it be?

•  What’s the funniest thing you’ve done to impress someone?

•  What’s a slang or phrase you can’t go a day without saying?

•  If you were jollof rice, would you be party jollof or home jollof?

•  If we swapped bodies for a day, what’s the first thing you’d do?

•  What’s your favourite meme?

• If you could have any celebrity’s voice for a day, whose would you choose and why?

• If you could replace all the grass in the world with something else, what would it be?