Romantic relationships are great, and romance is sweet. But let’s not lie, there are some things that we don’t like about dating; let’speak the truth and shame the devil. Anyway, if you won’t say it, I will, and I know you’ll agree with me. These are nine things that happen in relationships that we don’t like.
Relationship weight
If you haven’t gained relationship weight, then you’re a lucky bastard (or an unlucky one, if it’s the type of thing you like). Relationship weight is what you gain just from dating someone and being happy. It doesn’t only happen because your partner consistently buys you food and feeds you like you’d been starving before you met them. It just happens when you find a partner that brings you peace.
Relationship weight is the hardest type of weight to lose. I’ve added 4kg since I entered my relationship. The Lord is my strength.
Relationship money
As a single person living in Nigeria, money leaves your account with each breath you take. You’ll now go and join yourself with another adult? God abeg. I was looking at my bank statement last week because I needed to know how my money finished. And I saw that most of my debits came from relationship-related expenses. I couldn’t even cry because na me wan love.
Having to consider your partner when making important decisions
This one takes a bit of adjustment. As a single person, you can make certain bold decisions on your own. But when you start doing relationship, you’ll have to consider your partner because most of your decisions will affect them too.
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Fights
Fighting with your partner can ruin your whole mood throughout the duration of the fight. It’s so annoying how it can distabilise you and affect areas of your life. You’ll check your phone ten million billion times a day just to see if there’s a message from them. If the fight is really bad, you won’t even know when you begin to transfer aggression to people around you.
Having to be humble and apologise
For some people, apologising is a piece of cake. For others, it’s a big struggle. Having to humble yourself, admit you’re wrong and apologise to your partner will bruise your pride, even if you don’t want to admit it. I had to say sorry to my ex once after a fight, where I was in the wrong, and I promise you, I almost wanted to vomit. Love will humble you. SMH.
Consistently worrying about someone
Nobody warns you about how much you’ll worry about a partner you really care about. From the moment they step out of the house until they get back in, you’re thinking about their safety, praying that nothing happens to them. The sentence, “Text me when you get to…,” is not for fancy.
You’ll also be also worried about their eating habits, their living conditions, their work stress, family stress etc. Exhausting.
Stealing clothes
Your partner taking your clothes is all sweet and cute till they take your favourite shirt that you’ve had for years and you only wear on special occasions. Now you’re upset. It’s as if once you enter a relationship, your clothes are no longer yours and you have no say in how many are taken. Who made that rule, please?
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Missing your partner
Honestly, missing your partner can be emotionally exhausting. You’ll just be on your own, and suddenly you’re yearning for the person that has your mumu button. I hate that feeling in your chest you get when you haven’t seen or spoken to your significant other.
Forgiving your partner
Sometimes your partner will do something foolish that’ll piss you off, and all you want to do is block them and never talk to them again. But you can’t do that, because love, and you sef won’t survive it.
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