Romance dominated the past year. Even if you were not swept up in romantic moments , 2024 without a doubt taught you something new about your relationships—with your friends, siblings, parents, co-workers, or even strangers on the street. We spoke to ten young Nigerians, asking them to share their biggest lessons from relationships in 2024 to help you better navigate 2025.
Nwanchukwu*(26)
For love to work, both parties can’t reciprocate everything to the same degree– especially anger. Talk things through, even if it takes time. If you really care about someone, malice shouldn’t be your first assumption when they act out of character.
Star*(28)
Being single is the greatest gift of peace you can give yourself when faced with less-than-desirable options. It’s better to be single than to settle for someone who only meets your bare minimum criteria.
Papi*(26)
You can do everything right and be the sweetest person to someone you love, yet it still might not work out—and that’s completely okay. Take all the time you need to heal, pick yourself up, and try again, bringing the same love and kindness to the next person.
Mima*(25)
The biggest lesson I learned in 2024 was the importance of regularly reflecting on my own needs and desires in any relationship. I also learned that vulnerability is crucial in forming fulfilling and meaningful connections.
Tomi*(28)
Relationships are like plants, you get what you put into them. Some are sturdy, like jade plants or cacti, resilient and able to thrive in tough conditions. Others are delicate, like orchids or bonsai trees, requiring specific care. It’s up to you to understand the type of relationship you have and provide what’s needed to keep it healthy and thriving.
Adeoluwa*(24)
Love happens in the most unexpected ways and can be found in surprising places. I learned that being more open to opportunities for new meaningful relationships is key to living a fulfilled life.
Ken*(24)
Being intentional about deepening the relationships that matter can lead to pleasantly surprising outcomes. I was very intentional about building a relationship with my younger brother and I was very surprised at how much I didn’t know him—and how interesting he is as a young adult. I highly recommend it.
Bolu*(31)
Honesty and trust are non-negotiable in any relationship. Without them, a relationship becomes hollow and won’t withstand tough times. I learned this firsthand through a difficult breakup.
Sade*(23)
Set realistic expectations for the people you are in relationships with, whether they’re your partners, friends, family, or anyone else. I’m learning to extend as much consideration to others as I would to myself
Damola*(27)
Love is hard work, whether romantic, platonic or familial. If you want to receive love, you can’t just stand by; you have to actively check-in, hold space, and build trust.
